Why You’re Not Doing That Thing You Keep Talking A...

Why You’re Not Doing That Thing You Keep Talking About Doing

Short form: You don’t want it enough.

Sorry to break the news to you, but you’re likely not doing that thing you keep talking about because you don’t really want to. At a basic, primal level, us humans do things we want to. Animals are a great example of this: However tired or hurt, they’ll come running for that treat. For them, it’s black and white. The difference with us advanced humans is that we allow things and conjure up things that stop us. And these things are usually our own fault; fear, laziness, mental readiness or blocks etc. Things like time and money can become great excuses, and in some cases are totally valid, but if you want something enough, there are countless ways to make it happen. If you want it enough you’ll do something about it.

Be honest with yourself. There’s nothing wrong with not actually wanting to do something. If you don’t want to, that’s totally cool, but stop talking about it then. Talk is talk, action is action. Talking about doing the thing won’t make you do it. Verbalizing it or writing it down doesn’t make it real and, in fact, I think it’s dangerous—as if saying it aloud to someone is half the battle when it’s not even a fraction of the battle. And I’m not talking about accountability here—I actually think public accountability is fantastic and a great motivator while you’re already started and in the thick of it.

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But what’s more impressive: Saying you’re going to do something and never doing it, or never mentioning it and having people notice it on their own or revealing it after you’ve done the thing (a la Beyoncé’s 2013 surprise album drop)? People who are successful or have an impressive portfolio likely don’t mention it or talk about the things they’ve done. That’s what the work is for; it speaks for itself and does the talking.

On some level, I think we all know what’s best for us. You’re smarter than that, you badass in disguise, c’mon! You know what you should be doing, and it’s likely an extremely simple solution—stop overcomplicated it. And stop letting fear or laziness or the status quo get in the way—and if you’re a perfectionist who’s tweaking before you go, stop and just do it already. People in worse situations have done it. We’re very lucky to live where we do and have the things we have, but we’ve all heard of that story of someone overcoming their obstacle to achieve greatness (cough, cough Stephen Hawking). Most recently, the story that did it for me was the story of this man who’s blind and taught himself how to echo locate so he could ride a bike on the street and be completely independent.

Challenge yourself. It’s a new month, it’s a fresh year, stop making excuses and if you’re talking about doing it, do it or stop talking about it. As the old adage goes, nut up or shut up and be your badass self you know you can be if you just say “f*ck it”—’cause there’s beauty in giving less f*cks.